Potency: Beware!

So.  How potent are you willing to let yourself be to start allowing in everything you are asking for, professionally and personally?

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On my end, I want to live my full potency.  Period.  I am tired of the second-guessing, the what-if’s, and even the occasional desire to please others.  Ugh.

Yet, where the question really hits for me is in the willingness.  At first blush, many of us say, “Bring it on!” …until the voices in our head begin to whisper, “as long as it doesn’t mean I have to head that project”, give a speech, or engage regularly with “X”.  However, what I have found is that my growth demands that I allow the voices their moment and then look more deeply for clues or direct information as to the direction I need to go.  And, usually, it is in the exact direction that the voice is urging me to hold back from! 

For example, engaging regularly with “X”, may ask me to get to know that individual more personally so I can find a place of connection.  Or, it may require additional learning about personalities and how they can complement one another or provide information on how stress can be addressed when two opposite styles are engaged.  Or, it may ask me to dive into a deeper understanding of communication and the necessary skills and vulnerability required for crucial conversations that can move us toward new solutions and greater possibilities.

All of this demands reflection and checking in with myself regularly, much like when you are on a hike and must stop to read the weather signs, examine the map to check direction or stop to hydrate and feed yourself.  Without the reflection, I find that I am unable to see my personal ah-ha’s, give space when I find success to make sure I keep creating more of the same and recognize when I make a mistake, own it, learn and step forward in a new direction.

So, ask yourself.  How willing are you to live your true potency?

 

Celebration — An Amazing Way Through Fear

This post is about celebration!  It is a post recognizing that celebration is a way through our fear of change along the journey toward a new reality. 

This week my client, after a two-year transition from one career to another, celebrated with an Artist’s Opening of her paintings. She has already sold nine of her pieces coming out of her first weekend!  

Dealing with Fear of Change

Fear is tricky. It is something concocted uniquely by our brains to keep us safe.  It stems from our brain’s limbic system to address lions in the forest or strangers in dark parking lots. Sadly, it only recognizes the adrenaline rush, not the difference between the physical fear of lions and the mental fear we create when contemplating a career change. 

We have all heard the phrase, “The only constant is change.” It is constantly a part of every moment of our lives, so we take it for granted. We get lulled into thinking – I got this! Until we don’t. We either bring on or are hit by catalytic change. What we forget in this equation is that change is actually oxygen for growth.

Struggling between Versions of Yourself

Jennifer is a successful child therapist. There was no logical reason for her to leave what she was doing. Except for that tug that was going on inside her. Her tug was to be an artist—an active painter, selling her work. 

The struggle was between her fear of change – from defined success to an unknown – the urge turned to a gnawing and became an all-out tug from a deeper part of her that wanted to be known in the world.

She thought that those two ideas of herself were worlds apart, and yet they were much closer than she imagined. She already used her artistry while working with the kids she counseled. Her ability to work with children and their families using art was powerful, engaging, and transformative. So to begin her career transition, I helped her begin to reorder her transferable skills to better reflect what was going on inside her.

Celebrating Steps to Change

Jennifer's two years of transition was a journey into more deeply understanding herself, who she was, who she wanted to be, and determining what bridges she could use  and where they should lead.

There was nothing “easy” about it. There were times that she paused, re-examined, re-configured. But always the beauty in the decisions she made was that the learning was there to take her deeper.  

We kept recognizing the power of celebration within change, and that allowed her to see the fear for what it is – a creation to keep her safe. Celebration allows you to recognize the power of  the steps and the milestones along the way toward a goal.

Jennifer’s journey has in no way stopped, but what she has recognized is that the journey is hers to own and celebrate in each breath taken and decision made.

What are You Hearing from Inside?

Is it a nagging that won’t leave you alone?

There are absolutely no promises of ease. But, what you can find is a deeper place of joy that is speaking to you and that will support your forward movement. Stopping a moment to recognize and celebrate that joy along the way toward your larger goal is what makes the journey more enjoyable and helps you focus not just on the goal itself.

My and Jennifer’s time together allowed for that space to celebrate. Breathing and celebrating space to understand, challenge, grow, and move forward in the only life she has – her own.  

Now.  What about your life?

Do you need to allow more time and space for breathing and celebrating along your journey? Are you struggling to decide which path you should be traveling on? How do you combat the fear that can make change difficult?

 

Let me know in the comments!

Trusting that You are Enough

Trusting that You are Enough

When have you felt “in over your head”?  What about the situation made you feel that way? When we use this imagery it usually implies that we are feeling lost and alone in a place that seems beyond our capacity to handle.

 

It doesn’t matter if it is a business or a personal challenge, believing in yourself and trusting that who you are is enough opens the door to possibility and the risk-taking necessary to create opportunity.

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