The other night as I was leaving a parent meeting at school, I shared a quick exchange with another mom that I hadn't crossed paths with in a while. "You know," she said, "I hate that word life balance. There is simply no such thing. I hardly ever see my friends or anyone socially and all I do is work!" And, yes, I could definitely sense a thud to the exclamation mark at the end of her statement challenging me to even try to counter with any alternative view. However, I was curious if she was enjoying her own business. She shot back with how completely busy she was without anytime for anything or anyone in her life, upon which she turned and began a conversation with someone else.
Life balance is a powerful concept. The pain of the concept comes when we load it up with the expectation that our lives are components of inanimate objects to be picked up and placed on an immovable scale. In fact, Martha Beck says that any "deep-seated, long-lasting, intractable emotional pain is always evidence that we believe something false".
So, what is life? Life is simply the existence of change. And change is ever constant. Adding the concept of balance actually adds deep beauty if you recognize balance as simply presence. Presence allows for acceptance in what is in the moment. That awareness offers compassion and love, if you let it.
So, you are probably saying, "come on now...life balance is awareness of constant change opening into compassion and love?!?" Oh, ya, baby, you've got it now! So, let's bring it down to the everyday. A couple of ways to do that...
If life is change, then check in with yourself. What are you feeling? Self-awareness comes with self-reflection. So do it! Ask yourself. And, if change is constant, consider making it a habit. That feedback can be amazing content in your forward movement.
If balance is about presence, then take some time to introduce yourself to yourself! Take yourself out on a date and give yourself time to yourself. Do you know what you like? Do you know what makes you happy? Peaceful? Excited? Find out! Living in the moment is a sensory explosion of an amazing magnitude. Check it out! As you do, you might find the power of you and the real blessing that you are to the world.
So go for it. Life balance can be a lot of fun, if you allow it to be what it is...awareness of constant change opening into compassion and love. Bring it on!